Is it when someone is very sarcastic, dismissive, or contemptuous? Is it when someone has power within your group or social approval for their behavior that makes them hard to challenge?
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Boundaries Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries by Anne Katherine, M.A.Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and.Since boundary situations are often unique and complex, it is worth purchasing some books on the subject. Getting a handle on them keeps you from making commitments in a soft moment when your time will not really allow it, causing you to neglect a more important priority. These are all important issues to understand. When thinking about setting boundaries and making compromises, you are considering the totality of your values, your limits in terms of time and energy and your desire and ability to sacrifice. How do I typically handle trade-offs? Do they usually work for me or not? There is nothing wrong with making sacrifices, but if they are too frequent they can leave you feeling resentful.What can I always be flexible about? The answer could include family emergencies, activities that are important to a family member, where I jog, and where I live.An example: “I can work between 7AM-6PM but have to leave no later than 6PM to pick up my children.” What can I be somewhat flexible about? Scheduling issues typically fall in this category.It could be family time, diet requirements particularly if you are ill, or values related to doing harm to yourself or others. What is non-negotiable for me? Non-negotiable items are related to your values or conditions in your life like your health.What are my most important priorities? It is easier to say yes or no, when you are honoring your most important priorities.Values are the core of your boundary strategy and what you most need to honor. What are my most important values? Being clear about your values helps you identify good compromises.